The story of 2 men - which are you?
One dimensional loser or multi-dimensional powerhouse
On a beautiful late spring afternoon, twenty years ago, two young men started a business. They were very much alike, these two young men. Both were smart, both were personable, both were driven, and both were filled with ambitious dreams for the future.
Over the years, they both got married, had kids, and grew a business that filled their bank accounts with more money than they knew what to do with...
Yet recently, when these 2 men ran into each other at a coffee shop in town, it was impossible to not notice the GAPING DIFFERENCE between them.
One man was weak, overweight, soft around the edges, and slumbering along like a sloth before he could get his hands on his sugar-loaded cup of coffee.
He was on wife number 2 with another divorce coming down the pipeline because he still acted like a disconnected douchebag with no intimacy, passion, love, and connection in his marriage.
He had a detached, chaotic relationship with his kids, who barely knew him, and was sleepwalking through life without a clear vision of his life's work and purpose.
While he’d never admit it out loud to anyone, this man, despite making money, was living a life of desperate mediocrity. He was living the life of a pleasure-driven one-dimensional man.
The other man was vibrant, on fire, and walked with the calm, powerful confidence of a man that knows how to provide for, protect and lead his family.
Underneath his t-shirt and jeans, it was easy to see a body that was stronger, more shredded, more fit, and more athletic than men in their 20s.
His wife was by his side and the passion, lust, desire, and connection between them was palpable. His kids looked up to him as the man and leader of their family and felt deeply loved, connected, and supported by him.
It was clear he was living his life on purpose and having the impact he was put on this earth to create while also making it rain in his business…he was living the life of the purpose-driven Total Man…he was the KING of his jungle.
🏆 Which man are you? Do you accept your mission?
The story of the one-dimensional man above can be repeated from many different angles…
The man who knows how to be an amazing father and husband, but can’t bring home the money so they always struggle financially.
The man who knows how to make money and be an amazing parent, but is physically falling apart with type 2 diabetes. Every single day, he's injecting himself to keep things in check but his body has turned into a prison instead of a powerful tool.
The man who is incredibly connected spiritually but the rest of his world is burning down around him. He meditates like a champion but can’t build anything that has the capacity to make an impact in the world.
Or the man who crushes it in the gym and looks like a Greek god with his shirt off, but struggles to pay his cell phone bill each month.
I know this because I’ve met and coached every one of these men.
Inside each of their specific focuses they dominate, but as soon as the game becomes more comprehensive they crumble.
I’m also speaking from experience because I know firsthand what it’s like to be a one-dimensional loser. I’ve been the man who derives all of his meaning and purpose from crushing it in the gym. I’ve been the man who chases accolades, degrees and publications to stoke his ego. And I’ve been the man who neglected his wife while building a multi-six-figure business.
I tell you all of this because I need to know what type of man you are and what type of man you are committed to becoming…
If you’re here reading this right now, at some level you are searching for MORE out of your life because some or all of your life is not working at the level you know it could be.
So, it’s time to take a stand.
It’s time to make a DECISION right now and commit one way or the other.
Do you accept your mission to become the Total Man or are you going to continue playing small, settling for the life of a one-dimensional loser?
✅ If you do accept your mission, hit reply to this email with the words “TOTAL MAN” so I can properly welcome you to the Silverback Brotherhood.
❌ If you don’t accept your mission, I kindly ask you to unsubscribe now at the bottom of this email. There’s no judgment or hard feelings but you will not fit in here.
For the rest of this month, we are going to focus 100% on the difference between these 2 types of men, and more importantly, WHAT you need to do to become the Total Man - a man that builds a business, body, marriage, family, and life that ALL work at the highest level.
Thanks so much for being here.
Let’s dominate 💪
Cheers,
James
P.S. Just want to give you a small preview of what’s coming down the pipeline for the rest of this week:
Tomorrow, I’m going to share my 8-week challenge system with you. It’s one of the core rhythms the men in Silverback are using to decrease the overwhelm in their life, increase their effectiveness, and level up every 8 weeks like clockwork.
On Thursday, I’m going to share the one, simple action I do every day that radically elevated the intimacy, trust, and love my wife and I experience together.